The 7 Rules Of Handling Difficult Students
If you’re like most teachers, two or three students take up most of your time.
On the days when they’re absent, or pulled from your class, everything goes smoothly.
Teaching is more fun. You’re more relaxed. And you can cruise through your lessons without interruption.
Hooray!
But when they’re sitting in class, which seems like all the time, they can make you want to pull your hair out.
Unfortunately, the frustrations you feel dealing with difficult students can cause you to make mistakes.
The following is a list of 7 rules–all don’ts–that will help you avoid the most common pitfalls, and turn your most difficult students into valued members of your classroom.
Rule #1: Don’t question.
It’s normal for teachers to force explanations from difficult students as a form of accountability. But asking why and demanding a response from them almost always ends in resentment. And angry students who dislike their teacher never improve their classroom behavior.
Rule #2: Don’t argue.
When you argue with difficult students, it puts them on equal footing with you, creating a “your word against theirs” situation. This negates the effects of accountability. It also opens the floodgates: everybody will be arguing with you.
Rule #3: Don’t lecture, scold, or yell.
Lecturing, scolding, and yelling will cause all students to dislike you, but when you direct your diatribe toward one particular student, it can be especially damaging. Creating friction between you and your most challenging students virtually guarantees that their behavior will worsen.
Rule #4: Don’t give false praise.
Teachers often shower difficult students with praise for doing what is minimally expected. But because these students can look around at their fellow classmates and know that it’s a sham, false praise doesn’t work. Instead, give only meaningful, heartfelt praise based on true accomplishment.
Rule #5: Don’t hold a grudge.
“Every day is a new day” should be your mantra with difficult students. They need to know that they have a clean slate to start each day–and so do you. To that end, say hello, smile, and let them know you’re happy to see them first thing every morning.
Rule #6: Don’t lose your cool.
When you let students get under your skin and you lose emotional control, even if it’s just a sigh and an eye roll, you become less effective. Your likeability drops. Classroom tension rises. And when difficult students discover they can push your buttons, they’ll try as often as they can.
Rule #7: Don’t ignore misbehavior.
Given that there is an audience of other students, ignoring misbehavior will not make it go away. It will only make it worse. Instead, follow your classroom management plan as it’s written. If a difficult student breaks a rule, no matter how trivial, enforce it immediately.
It’s About Relationships
What if the two or three (or more) difficult students in your classroom admired you? What if they looked up to you, respected you, trusted you, and liked being in your company?
What if they embraced whatever you had to say to them?
Your success in helping them change their behavior would go through the roof, and you’d have peace in your classroom. The fact is, everything hinges on your ability to build relationships with your students.
Your classroom management plan merely nudges them in the right direction. Done correctly, it gets students to look inward, to self-evaluate, and to feel the weight of their transgressions. But by itself, it can only do so much.
It’s your relationship with your students that makes the greatest difference.
When you build trusting rapport with them, which anyone can do, you then possess a tidal wave of influence that can change their behavior, improve their academic performance, and profoundly impact their lives.
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In my personal opinion this are very important tips to handle a hard student, however, one thing that the article mention is the concept of "rapport". Buikd rapport with the students makes a difference in how even hard students develop themselves in class. I would like to share some steps that can help us as teachers to build rapport in class:
ResponderEliminarTips for Rapport-Building
How might we build rapport with our students? Try any or all of the following suggestions for developing rapport with your students:
Learn to call your students by name.
Learn something about your students' interests, hobbies, and aspirations.
Create and use personally relevant class examples.
Arrive to class early and stay late -- and chat with your students.
Explain your course policies -- and why they are what they are.
Post and keep office hours.
Get online -- use e-mail to increase accessibility to your students.
Interact more, lecture less -- emphasize active learning.
Reward student comments and questions with verbal praise;
Be enthusiastic about teaching and passionate about your subject matter.
Lighten up -- crack a joke now and then.
Be humble and, when appropriate, self-deprecating.
Make eye contact with each student -- without staring, glaring, or flaring.
Be respectful.
Don't forget to smile!
If you want to read more about this, I am going to share the page link.
I hope this help us to handdle hard students, and as well remember the last tip: Always smile (:
Link:http://www.socialpsychology.org/rapport.htm
Greetings!
Paula Anzola